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The Single's Workshop
by Prophetess Delisa Lindsey
“Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of
thine heart. Commit thy way
unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” Psalms
37:4-5
No matter what we have achieved in life, not having that special
someone to share it with leaves a bitter aftertaste. We weren’t
designed to be alone; in fact, God said it is not good for man
(mankind) to be alone. In the beginning, the Father had just created a
paradise on earth. The animals were yoking with their kin, the birds
were flying high together, the creatures of the sea were swimming in
their schools, yet Adam had no suitable helpmate. Adam was made
CEO of Eden. He was the government on earth and enjoyed an
intimate relationship with the Father. He had everything he needed,
except a helpmate. As lovely as the Garden was, as exotic as the
animals were, as intriguing as the new creation was, he was still alone.
Adam was in a crowd, but he was alone. God saw Adam’s heart and
his yearning for companionship, just like He sees yours. He said, “It is
not good for man to be alone.” When God created you, he filled you
with a longing for your other half. This desire wakes up in each of us
about the same time. We long for someone who complements us, who
makes up the shortcomings within us. We long for the touch, the
fulfillment of someone else accepting and loving us other than our
immediate families. We yearn for someone to share a life with.
Psalms 37:4-5 tells us to delight ourselves in the Lord. If the Lord is
our delight, we will be satisfied with Him. No, He can’t offer the same
type of companionship of someone in flesh and blood, but if our hearts
are set on pleasing Him and serving Him, the season of single-ness
passes much faster than otherwise. Paul admonishes the unmarried to
devote their bodies and minds to the Lord. Once these are submitted
to the Lord, the enemy can’t tempt and seduce as at other times.
Consider Isaac, Abraham’s son (Genesis 24). Once his mother, Sarah,
passed, he was lonely and lacked the companionship of a female,
albeit his mother. Isaac kept his mind preoccupied with caring for his
father’s herds and flocks. Abraham saw the loneliness of his son and
beckoned to his servant to secure a suitable mate for Isaac. Abraham
was very specific in that he wanted his son to marry a woman of good
stock. He sent his servant to find the young woman who would meet his
son’s needs. The servant was very specific to follow the details
Abraham outlined for him and secured the young woman, Rebekah.
Once Rebekah and the servant returned, the bible mentioned that as
the servant and Rebekah returned, Isaac had completed his day’s
work and was in the field meditating. When Rebekah laid eyes on him,
she inquired concerning him and once she discovered he was to be
her husband, she jumped off the camel to meet her husband.
There are several lessons to be learned here. First, Isaac was not
seeking a wife, although he had every right to, he chose to remain
faithful to his father, Abraham. Spiritually speaking, when we are
faithful to our Father, what good thing(s) would He withhold from us. If
we are seeking His Kingdom and His righteousness, all the desires of
our hearts will be added to us. Added to us – means He freely gives
them to us. Just as He formed Eve from Adam’s side, He is forming
your mate also. He knows who you need and what you need better
than you think you do. Occupy yourself while you are waiting. Stay
busy for the Lord, volunteer some of your extra time with the youth or
the elderly. Spend time in prayer and meditations, something you may
not have so much time to devote to once you are married and rearing
children. Get to know yourself. Pay attention to what makes you tick,
what upsets you, what cheers you. Work on the areas of your life
which may be problematic in your upcoming marriage. Practice
cooking, cleaning, and sharing. Most importantly, trust God to provide
a mate for you. Don’t select for yourself. Samson’s testimony would be
more effective had he not fallen for Delilah’s beauty and charm.
Trusting God to provide you with a mate can be a difficult thing to do if
you don’t trust Him. If your faith in the Father is not sufficient to depend
on Him, utilize faith builders. Study passages of scripture on faith. Talk
to others in your congregation who are strong in faith. Find good,
scriptural books on faith authored by well known and respected
Christian authors. Ask your pastor about additional resources you may
use to encourage you to build a long lasting and trusting relationship
with the Lord. Isaac trusted his father because he knew his father
loved him. He knew that whatever he needed, his father has always
provided, why would he fall short in this area? Marriage is the most
important event in our life, with the obvious except of receiving
salvation. Marriage is a life long process when done according to God’
s plan. Marriages fail today because God can’t commit Himself to
something He had no part in. He will keep together what He joined
together, He is Alpha and Omega, beginning and ending. He will see
His marriages through, but those who marry for the
wrong reasons, sex, money, glamour, etc, have an expiration date
attached to their marriage license. Abraham chose Rebekah from
good stock. In other words, she descended from a good family. She
was Abraham’s niece. (Marrying a relative is not an option today; the
world is densely populated in these modern times) Nevertheless, he
wanted his son to marry a woman who would love his son,
who would submit to him, and properly raise their children. Today, we
have legions of hereditary curses attached to our blood lines ranging
from mental illness, physical illness, deformities, addictions, habits, and
tendencies. Unfortunately, familiarizing oneself with a mate’s family is a
thing of the past. The family structure has been horribly broken in our
society to the point that we don’t know who our spouse’s family
members are, nor are we able to discern what probabilities lay in their
blood line which may manifest through our spouse at a later or through
the children being born in the marriage. Abraham performed the first
genetic test by choosing a mate from his own family for his son.
Unfortunately, we will see Rebekah entice her youngest son, Jacob to
deceive his father, Isaac. He tricked his older brother, Esau out of his
birthright, and much later we will see Laban, Rachel’s brother deceives
Jacob. Family genetics are very important in making choices for
marriage. It is always best to let the Lord choose for you.
The last thought on this topic is the zeal with which Rebekah jumped
off her horse. (Personally, I have taught on this subject many times
and each time I manage to make the ladies blush!) Isaac wasn’t the
only child submissive to his father; Rebekah was submissive to her
father as well. When the servant found her, she was working on her
father’s farm. First impressions are lasting impressions. You want to
marry someone with a work ethic, not someone looking for a free ride
or a way of escape. Both of these individuals were hard workers. In our
lazy society, you don’t encounter many young people with a mind to
work to be a blessing to their families. Today’s generation has their
hands out. Scripture says if a man doesn’t work, neither shall he eat.
Practically, the verse says, you can’t enjoy what you haven’t worked
for. Rebekah was ready for marriage as well, but she understood the
process involved. She had to wait for the right person to come along at
the right time. Isaac’s father summoned her, just as your Heavenly
Father is summoning your mate. When she arrived, she was ecstatic.
Isaac, a strong, virile, wealthy, handsome, man of God is capable of
making any single woman of God jump off her high horse!
Likewise, Isaac, reeling from his mother’s departure and missing her
companionship, no doubt took a double look at this graceful, strong,
beautiful, young woman being thrust at him. It is of no wonder they
consummated their marriage that very night! The lesson learned from
this is that when God draws His sons and His daughters together, He
moves quickly. He has already fashioned your hearts and minds
together that you may live a life of love and unity. All you need
to do is simply walk therein. Contrary to popular opinion, marriages are
made in Heaven. God drew our purposes and destinies in mind when
He created Heaven and earth. Why wouldn’t He know who your ‘soul’
mate is? Why wouldn’t you want to wait on Him to provide? Don’t you
want His very best? Don’t settle for cheap imitations when you can
have what genuinely belongs to you. You have suffered many
disappointments and broken relationships throughout your life. You
may even feel frustrated and defeated and have given up hope of
finding your other half. I want you to know today that the Lord has
prepared the desires of your heart for you. He is preparing your other
half right now. And the more you rest in Him and desire Him; it will
surely come to pass.
“Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of
thine heart. Commit thy way
unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” Psalms
37:4-5
No matter what we have achieved in life, not having that special
someone to share it with leaves a bitter aftertaste. We weren’t
designed to be alone; in fact, God said it is not good for man
(mankind) to be alone. In the beginning, the Father had just created a
paradise on earth. The animals were yoking with their kin, the birds
were flying high together, the creatures of the sea were swimming in
their schools, yet Adam had no suitable helpmate. Adam was made
CEO of Eden. He was the government on earth and enjoyed an
intimate relationship with the Father. He had everything he needed,
except a helpmate. As lovely as the Garden was, as exotic as the
animals were, as intriguing as the new creation was, he was still alone.
Adam was in a crowd, but he was alone. God saw Adam’s heart and
his yearning for companionship, just like He sees yours. He said, “It is
not good for man to be alone.” When God created you, he filled you
with a longing for your other half. This desire wakes up in each of us
about the same time. We long for someone who complements us, who
makes up the shortcomings within us. We long for the touch, the
fulfillment of someone else accepting and loving us other than our
immediate families. We yearn for someone to share a life with.
Psalms 37:4-5 tells us to delight ourselves in the Lord. If the Lord is
our delight, we will be satisfied with Him. No, He can’t offer the same
type of companionship of someone in flesh and blood, but if our hearts
are set on pleasing Him and serving Him, the season of single-ness
passes much faster than otherwise. Paul admonishes the unmarried to
devote their bodies and minds to the Lord. Once these are submitted
to the Lord, the enemy can’t tempt and seduce as at other times.
Consider Isaac, Abraham’s son (Genesis 24). Once his mother, Sarah,
passed, he was lonely and lacked the companionship of a female,
albeit his mother. Isaac kept his mind preoccupied with caring for his
father’s herds and flocks. Abraham saw the loneliness of his son and
beckoned to his servant to secure a suitable mate for Isaac. Abraham
was very specific in that he wanted his son to marry a woman of good
stock. He sent his servant to find the young woman who would meet his
son’s needs. The servant was very specific to follow the details
Abraham outlined for him and secured the young woman, Rebekah.
Once Rebekah and the servant returned, the bible mentioned that as
the servant and Rebekah returned, Isaac had completed his day’s
work and was in the field meditating. When Rebekah laid eyes on him,
she inquired concerning him and once she discovered he was to be
her husband, she jumped off the camel to meet her husband.
There are several lessons to be learned here. First, Isaac was not
seeking a wife, although he had every right to, he chose to remain
faithful to his father, Abraham. Spiritually speaking, when we are
faithful to our Father, what good thing(s) would He withhold from us. If
we are seeking His Kingdom and His righteousness, all the desires of
our hearts will be added to us. Added to us – means He freely gives
them to us. Just as He formed Eve from Adam’s side, He is forming
your mate also. He knows who you need and what you need better
than you think you do. Occupy yourself while you are waiting. Stay
busy for the Lord, volunteer some of your extra time with the youth or
the elderly. Spend time in prayer and meditations, something you may
not have so much time to devote to once you are married and rearing
children. Get to know yourself. Pay attention to what makes you tick,
what upsets you, what cheers you. Work on the areas of your life
which may be problematic in your upcoming marriage. Practice
cooking, cleaning, and sharing. Most importantly, trust God to provide
a mate for you. Don’t select for yourself. Samson’s testimony would be
more effective had he not fallen for Delilah’s beauty and charm.
Trusting God to provide you with a mate can be a difficult thing to do if
you don’t trust Him. If your faith in the Father is not sufficient to depend
on Him, utilize faith builders. Study passages of scripture on faith. Talk
to others in your congregation who are strong in faith. Find good,
scriptural books on faith authored by well known and respected
Christian authors. Ask your pastor about additional resources you may
use to encourage you to build a long lasting and trusting relationship
with the Lord. Isaac trusted his father because he knew his father
loved him. He knew that whatever he needed, his father has always
provided, why would he fall short in this area? Marriage is the most
important event in our life, with the obvious except of receiving
salvation. Marriage is a life long process when done according to God’
s plan. Marriages fail today because God can’t commit Himself to
something He had no part in. He will keep together what He joined
together, He is Alpha and Omega, beginning and ending. He will see
His marriages through, but those who marry for the
wrong reasons, sex, money, glamour, etc, have an expiration date
attached to their marriage license. Abraham chose Rebekah from
good stock. In other words, she descended from a good family. She
was Abraham’s niece. (Marrying a relative is not an option today; the
world is densely populated in these modern times) Nevertheless, he
wanted his son to marry a woman who would love his son,
who would submit to him, and properly raise their children. Today, we
have legions of hereditary curses attached to our blood lines ranging
from mental illness, physical illness, deformities, addictions, habits, and
tendencies. Unfortunately, familiarizing oneself with a mate’s family is a
thing of the past. The family structure has been horribly broken in our
society to the point that we don’t know who our spouse’s family
members are, nor are we able to discern what probabilities lay in their
blood line which may manifest through our spouse at a later or through
the children being born in the marriage. Abraham performed the first
genetic test by choosing a mate from his own family for his son.
Unfortunately, we will see Rebekah entice her youngest son, Jacob to
deceive his father, Isaac. He tricked his older brother, Esau out of his
birthright, and much later we will see Laban, Rachel’s brother deceives
Jacob. Family genetics are very important in making choices for
marriage. It is always best to let the Lord choose for you.
The last thought on this topic is the zeal with which Rebekah jumped
off her horse. (Personally, I have taught on this subject many times
and each time I manage to make the ladies blush!) Isaac wasn’t the
only child submissive to his father; Rebekah was submissive to her
father as well. When the servant found her, she was working on her
father’s farm. First impressions are lasting impressions. You want to
marry someone with a work ethic, not someone looking for a free ride
or a way of escape. Both of these individuals were hard workers. In our
lazy society, you don’t encounter many young people with a mind to
work to be a blessing to their families. Today’s generation has their
hands out. Scripture says if a man doesn’t work, neither shall he eat.
Practically, the verse says, you can’t enjoy what you haven’t worked
for. Rebekah was ready for marriage as well, but she understood the
process involved. She had to wait for the right person to come along at
the right time. Isaac’s father summoned her, just as your Heavenly
Father is summoning your mate. When she arrived, she was ecstatic.
Isaac, a strong, virile, wealthy, handsome, man of God is capable of
making any single woman of God jump off her high horse!
Likewise, Isaac, reeling from his mother’s departure and missing her
companionship, no doubt took a double look at this graceful, strong,
beautiful, young woman being thrust at him. It is of no wonder they
consummated their marriage that very night! The lesson learned from
this is that when God draws His sons and His daughters together, He
moves quickly. He has already fashioned your hearts and minds
together that you may live a life of love and unity. All you need
to do is simply walk therein. Contrary to popular opinion, marriages are
made in Heaven. God drew our purposes and destinies in mind when
He created Heaven and earth. Why wouldn’t He know who your ‘soul’
mate is? Why wouldn’t you want to wait on Him to provide? Don’t you
want His very best? Don’t settle for cheap imitations when you can
have what genuinely belongs to you. You have suffered many
disappointments and broken relationships throughout your life. You
may even feel frustrated and defeated and have given up hope of
finding your other half. I want you to know today that the Lord has
prepared the desires of your heart for you. He is preparing your other
half right now. And the more you rest in Him and desire Him; it will
surely come to pass.
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Free yourself from the
mindset that Singleness
is Loneliness. God has
merely set you apart you
unto Himself for a period
of preparation as He is
also preparing the one
you are trusting Him for.
mindset that Singleness
is Loneliness. God has
merely set you apart you
unto Himself for a period
of preparation as He is
also preparing the one
you are trusting Him for.
Take this vitally
important time to learn
yourself. Build your
esteem and your self
worth. Take the time to
get to know YOU.
important time to learn
yourself. Build your
esteem and your self
worth. Take the time to
get to know YOU.
Don't rush into
relationships based on
what other's are doing.
God uses you best when
you are delightfully
submitted to His will.
relationships based on
what other's are doing.
God uses you best when
you are delightfully
submitted to His will.
Singleness is a Gift from
God. Satan intends for
you to consider it a curse.
God. Satan intends for
you to consider it a curse.
The first place God put
man was not in front of a
woman, but in the
presence of God.
man was not in front of a
woman, but in the
presence of God.